Chances, Choices & Consequencies

Every chance in life is an opportunity to choose. However, the consequences of those choices automatically follow. Nobody can have everything in the world; choice is the only thing that is left for all. But if someone thinks he or she is unable to make a choice, he or she has already made one – “indecision is already a decision”

Moses warned the children of Israel on the consequences of not obeying God after his death. Similarly, Joshua warned them not to have any other god apart from Jehovah. Despite the warning, years after Moses died, the children of Israel perpetrated all kinds of atrocities of their own choices. The consequences came and out of 600,000 able bodied men that left Egypt, only two made it to the Promised land. We must understand the nature of God before toying with His justice. The foundations of His throne are justice and judgement. There is no destructive means that can bring about a constructive end.

Why is the race not to the swift and the battle not to the strong? Many valiant men die in battles they had no business fighting and many swift people run ahead of God and outside of His direction into untimely death. The race is not to the swift because God can take flight out of the fast. If the battle were to the strong, Goliath would have killed David. Similarly, riches are not to men of understanding because the fact that one is wise does not equate to riches or else professors should be the richest in the world.

Whether you are strong in battle, swift of feet, wise and full of understanding, you still require time and chance. Every time there is a chance, an opportunity presents itself to make a choice. Once a choice is made, consequences must follow. You are where you are today because of the choices you made

Think about these things…..



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7 Things To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

No matter how successful you are in life and business, success doesn’t give you immunity from humanity. We all have days where we don’t want to get out of bed. But…what happens when this feeling lasts for days or weeks or months? What happens when we feel like we’ve lost purpose and we just want to give up, whether on a career or relationship?

Over the last 12 years, through creating and selling multiple companies to now working with business owners, I’ve identified the seven things you need to do when you feel like giving up.

1. Go Back To “Why”

As Simon Sinek says, it starts with ‘why.’ Occasionally, we start with one vision in mind and end up moving so far away from why we started a business, job or relationship in the first place that we end up lost and questioning our decisions and actions. Maybe you can’t remember the last time you were happy. Perhaps your big colourful picture of where you wanted to head has slowly turned to black and white. Get back that clarity! Every 90 days revisit your big ‘why’ to ensure you’re on track and achieving what you want.

2. Learn To Feel Uncomfortable

Life is not easy nor is it meant to be. We are always facing hurdles and obstacles that we must overcome, which is all part of the journey. If you can accept that things will get tough and it won’t always be roses and sweet-smelling kittens, you’ll get yourself better prepared for what’s to come. When you feel stuck in a rut you must learn to breathe, reset and revisit your goals. What is it that you’re going for in business and in life? A simple readjustment and a brief ‘time out’ can dramatically move you forward like you never thought possible.

3. Win Through Persistence

Winston Churchill said, “If you have an important point to make, don’t try to be subtle or clever. Use a pile driver. Hit the point once. Then come back and hit it again. Then hit it a third time – a tremendous whack.” Persistence is the key if you want to win. I’ve felt like giving up many times during my entrepreneurial journey and the persistence to make things happen has kept me going. Understanding and truly believing that persistence delivers results will keep you moving forward.

4. Share Your Goals

You wake up and decide that today is the day you’ll quit smoking. You start the morning strong, but don’t want to mention it to anyone at work in case you feel like one at afternoon tea. Find an ‘accountability buddy’ to keep you on track. Sure, this is scary, but it ensures you deliver on your promise to yourself. Make sure the other person will show you some tough love. This will keep you honest and continually taking action.

5. Acknowledge Challenges

Oh yes, there will be tough times – but you already know this. When you feel like giving up because it’s too tough, it’s not a surprise as you knew the journey wouldn’t be full of rainbows and bunnies. Acknowledge the challenge, embrace it, learn what you can and power on!

6. Get Happy

We all get in a funk every now and again. That’s just the way we’re built. But, instead of lying on the sofa eating ice cream out of the tub and putting on your favourite sitcom, get happy! Think back to the last time you were really thriving in your life. Think about what you were doing and make that happen again! For me, it’s music. I’ll turn up the volume, whack on the iPod and play my favourite high-energy tracks to get me buzzed.

7. Be Proud

Sometimes we forget to stop and smell the flowers. Along those lines, we also forget to celebrate the victories our efforts have created. Be proud of where you have come from and what you’ve achieved. Every 90 days, review the last three months, and soak up your achievements no matter how small they are.

The next time you feel like giving up, ask yourself if you’ve done everything possible in your current situation to maximize the opportunity. Have you experienced all the learnings, happiness and pain associated with what you want to achieve? If the answer is no, then keep going until you have!

Have you ever felt like giving up? When was the last time this feeling went through your mind? How did you overcome it and surge forward with your life? Let us know in the comments below.

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… Is your assignment over?

  • I constantly hear this voice within me…”You are more than this..”Decision
  • I’m so uninspired.
  • I force myself to do what I would normally do with all joy.
  • I look forward to something more satisfying.
  • It’s really not about the money, what’s my impact?

It is true that our individual God-given purposes in life do not change but our assignments change per time.  For example, if your  purpose is to  obtain a master’s degree.. you’ll start by seeking admission, accept admission, register for courses, read and write exams, conduct research, write thesis and defend your thesis. These are time-bond assignments (and requirements) towards master’s degree.

If you find yourself in 3 or more situations painted above; then its time to examine your assignment. You are probably seeking admission when you should be registering courses? It is almost certain that your task is over at your current location and you should consider your next assignment.

But what is the next assignment?  be quiet, connect to your source, look inward and examine the signs..  You already have answers!


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Don’t Let the Enemy Steal Your Joy

Don’t let the enemy steal your joy

He’ll try you know.

You may not even realize it until it’s too late.

From the moment your feet hit the floor, he’ll do all that he can to distract you, to overwhelm you, to frustrate you, and to stir up worry and strife. Often his ways are subtle, other times they’re more clear. It’s what he does best. Stealing. Killing. Destroying.

Just say “no.”

Don’t let him win.

We have a choice of who we listen to and what we believe.

Recognize who is at the root of it all, and push past his lies, step over his traps.

God gives us the power through His Holy Spirit to live free from the entanglement of sin. He gives us the power to live strong. He gives wisdom and discernment to make the right choices. He gives joy deep inside. He offers the assurance, that no matter what we face, He is with us.

His truth says this, 8 loving reminders:

“The joy of the Lord is my strength.” Neh.8:10

“Greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world.” 1 John 4:4

“No weapon that is formed against you will prosper…” Is.54:17

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” John 10:10

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.” Rom.15:13

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.” James 1:2

“This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Ps.118:24

“For you shall go out in joy and be led forth in peace; the mountains and the hills before you shall break forth into singing, and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands.” Is. 55:12

May His grace, peace, and joy cover your day.

He is with you…

“Dear God,

At the start of each day, help us to recognize you above all else. Enlighten the eyes of our heart that we might see you, and notice how you’re at work through our lives. Give us wisdom to make the best choices, fill us with a desire to seek after you more than anything else in this world. Let your Spirit and power breathe in us, through us, again, fresh and new. Thank you that you are greater than anything we may face in our day. Thank you that your presence goes with us, and that your joy is never dependent on our circumstances, but it is our true and lasting strength, no matter what we’re up against. We ask that your peace lead us, that it would guard our hearts and minds in you. We ask for your grace to cover our lives this day. We love you Lord…we need you.

In Jesus’ Name,


Written by Debbie McDaniel

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10 Commandments for Becoming You

I’m giving myself these permissions, these ordersthese Ten Authenticity Commandments so to speak… to help me stay true to myself while becoming myself. Maybe if you are feeling a little lost today they might speak to you too…

1.You shall live as though life is a process of becoming.

This process of discovering who we really are isn’t something we simply awaken to one day. Life’s peaks, valleys and plateaus all lead us through this process.  While life has a start line and a finish line, much of the in-between isn’t so definable. But each day has something to offer in the shaping of our souls.

2.You shall pay close attention to the people you are surrounding yourself with.

That saying, “you become most like the five people you spend the most amount of time with,” it’s true. Do you leave the company of those five people feeling inspired and better about yourself or anxious and fearful of everything you said? Choose your five wisely.

3.You shall embrace where you are not where you wish to be.

Life is short. Assume today is all you get. We cannot really live by chasing the “one-day” scenarios. What if this is it?

4.You shall have permission to change your mind.

That color you thought you would love until the grave and now you hate it? It’s ok to change your mind. That job you worked so hard to get but now your just not sure? It’s ok to change your mind. Living as you is messy and complicated. It’s ok to change your mind, even more than once.

5.You shall do something each day that makes you feel alive.

We will lose ourselves no faster than when we stay in the cycle of busy and go. What is it that makes you feel alive? Is it snapping a picture? Feeling dirt beneath your feet? Watching the sunset or rise? Is it laughing until your core hurts? Press pause on busy and make a mad dash each day towards those things that make you feel alive.

6.You shall not believe the life you live is second best.

No matter how small someone makes you feel, what the world screams you need more of or the lack of something you have today, this life is your life and it’s the number one life for you. And it’s a great life —if we see it that way.

7.You shall keep your excuses in check so they will not become reasons to stay the same.

There will always be things you need to work on. Staying healthy, having the right thoughts, working harder, working less… there is always room for personal improvement.

8.You shall love your peculiarities rather than try to hide them.

The way you snort when you laugh. Your expressions on selfies. How you narrate your dogs life. The way you slurp spaghetti noodles. Your really bizarre Starbucks order. These are the beautiful things that make you, you.

9.You shall love yourself in a way that reflects Gods love for you.

Those moments where you just don’t like yourself? They will come. But remember, love covers a multitude of wrongs. [Proverbs 10:12] Give yourself grace.  Grace for your failures, grace for the bent places in your life, grace for the process of becoming you.

10.You shall stay in the shadow of someone long enough to learn what you must learn but then you must move to your own sunlight.

There is a time to learn, a time to sow, and a time to grow. But then there is a time to shine your light and help others find their own. Know when your season of shadow is done.

What about you? Which of these do you need the most in your life right now? I’d love to hear what’s going on with you in the comment section today. 

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7 “Be-Attitudes” of Workplace

experienceReflecting over the last 300 weeks of my career journey… Right from the land of impossibilities, I traveled through the valleys, my car almost ran on water; I climbed mount Everest, distressed and falling-over, but I ‘never say never’… until I arrived at the new Horizon. I tell you.. It was  such an adventurous ride; a few will have this privilege in a life time career.

Much more than remembering the challenges, achievements, celebrations,  failures, disappointments and suspense along the journey; I feel the necessity to  filter my experience and highlight important learning points…. probably to practically re-affirm some basic laws (of life) and create reference for future endeavors.

I came up with the following “Be -Attitude” or beatitudes of workplace :

Beatitude One
Be strategic, let your work speak for you; it pays than speaking for yourself.

Beatitude Two
Be sensitive to your environment, much is being said without words.

Beatitude Three
Be mindful of your encounter with people, everyone you encounter takes a portion of you everywhere they go.

Beatitude Four
Be free to draw inspiration from the achievement of colleagues, but be careful not to Compete, ‘Career Competition’ is a drainer.

Beatitude Five
Be a friend; find and nourish friendship  at work, it makes the job a lot easier.

Beatitude Six
Be focused; you’ll likely meet  some ‘English Speaking’ ( Seemingly Smart ) colleagues; they’ll probably get commendations for your job.. but  relax , in-the-long-run the ‘English’ (Smartness) usually put them in trouble.

Beatitude Seven
Be simple, w
hen situation seems overwhelming.. simply take it “a day at a time”; As much as you can.. ALWAYS maintain the right attitude.

Which of these beatitudes can you relate with? You may want to add a few more.. please feel free to make comments.

Thank you for reading
‘Debo writes…

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Once Upon a time….

Once upon a time, there were some animals that wanted to start a school for animals. They decided the courses would include running, climbing, swimming, and flying. Then they decided that all of the animals should take all of the courses.

That’s where the problem started. The duck was better than his teacher at swimming, but he only made passing grades in flying and was very poor in running. So they made him drop swimming and stay after school to practice running. This caused his webbed feet to be badly worn, and his grade dropped to average in swimming. But everybody felt less threatened and more comfortable with that — except the duck.

The rabbit started at the top of his class in running, but because of so much make-up work in swimming, he caught pneumonia and had to drop out of school. The squirrel showed outstanding ability in climbing, but he was extremely frustrated in flying class because the teacher insisted that he start from the ground up rather than the treetop down. He developed Charlie horses from over-extension, so he only got a “C” in climbing and a “D” in running. The eagle was the problem student and was disciplined for being a nonconformist. For instance, in climbing class, he beat all the others to the top of the tree, but he insisted on flying to get there. Finally, because he refused to participate in swimming class, he was expelled.

The point is that God has designed specific animals to excel in specific areas, and he doesn’t expect them to do all the other things. When you expect everybody to fit in the same mold, all you’re going to get is frustration, discouragement, mediocrity, and failure. A duck is made to be a duck and not something else.

And you were made to be you. God has given you unique abilities, and he wants you to use them the way he intended.

Your abilities are the map to God’s will for your life. It points the direction. When you know what you’re good at, then you can know what God wants you to do with your life.

Thank you

(Culled from Rick Warrens’s Devotionals)

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Which one are you? A Manager, a Leader or Managing Leader?

01) A Manager has a short-range perspective. A Leader has a long-range perspective.

02) A Manager plans how and when. A Leader asks What? and Why?

03) A Manager eyes the bottom line. A Leader eyes the horizon.

04) A Manager imitates others. A Leader originates.

05) A Manager accepts the status quo. A Leader challenges the status quo.

06) A Manager does things correctly. A Leader does the correct thing.

07) A Manager seeks continuity. A Leader seeks change.

08) A Manager focuses on goals for improvement. A Leader focuses on goals of innovation.

09) A Manager bases power on position or authority. A Leader bases power on personal influence.

10) A Manager demonstrates skill in technical competence. A Leader demonstrates skill in selling the vision.

11) A Manager demonstrates skill in administration. A Leader demonstrates skill in dealing with ambiguity.

12) A Manager demonstrates skill in supervision. A Leader demonstrates skill in persuasion.

13) A Manager works toward employee compliance. A Leader works toward employee commitment.

14) A Manager plans tactics. A Leader plans strategy.

15) A Manager sets standard operating procedures. A Leader sets policy.

16) A Manager relies on analytical decision-making style. A Leader relies on intuitive decision-making style.

17) A Manager is risk cautious. A Leader takes the necessary risks.

18) A Manager uses a “transactional” communication style. A Leader uses a “transformational” communication style.

19) A Manager builds success through maintenance of quality. A Leader builds success through employee commitment.

20) A Manager does not want to experience anarchy. A Leader does not want to experience inertia.

21) A Manager plans, budgets, and designs detail steps. A Leader develops vision & the strategies to achieve it.

22) A Manager sets standards of performance. A Leader sets standards of excellence.

23) A Manager develops the detailed plan to achieve results. A Leader develops future direction by observing trends.

Which one are you.. A Manager, a Leader or Managing Leader?

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5 Ways to Relax in God’s Grace

How do you learn to “R.E.L.A.X.” in the liberating grace of God?

Realize nobody’s perfect.

Psalm 119:96 says, “Nothing is perfect except your words” (LB). What society tells you isn’t perfect. What popular opinion tells you isn’t perfect. What you learned growing up isn’t perfect. But God’s Word is perfect. When you get in the Bible and build your life on it, you will have a perfect foundation.

Enjoy God’s unconditional love.

The Bible says, “See how very much our heavenly Father loves us, for he allows us to be called his children — think of it — and we really are!” (1 John 3:1) When you become a follower of Christ, you’re not just a servant of God anymore. You are a child of the King. A servant is accepted on the basis of what he does; a child is accepted on the basis of who he is. A servant starts the day anxious and worried that his work will please his master; a child rests in the secure love of his family. A servant is accepted because of his workmanship; a child is accepted because of his relationship.

Let God handle things.

What do you do about the uncontrollable things in life? “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7 NIV). When you cast a line, there comes a point where you have to take your finger off the button and let it go. Just like the essence of casting is letting go, to overcome perfectionism, you have to let go and let God do his work.

Act in faith, not fear.

Remember how you got into God’s family in the first place. Ephesians 2:8 says, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith.” There’s no other way to get into Heaven except by grace. You’ll never be good enough, and you can’t buy your way in. It’s a free gift from God.

Exchange your perfectionism for God’s peace.

Perfectionism destroys peace. Jesus says in Matthew 11:28-29, “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest…. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace” (MSG). What a deal!

You’re going to fail a lot in life. But you don’t have to worry about it if you’ve received God’s grace. In fact, there’s only one failure you ever need to worry about: “Be careful that no one fails to receive God’s grace” (Hebrews 12:15a NCV). Receive it right now, and then relax!

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